There were some humorous moments. What I Thought I Knew is a book worth reading. Apr 27, Jackie rated it really liked it Shelves: nonfiction , work-review-related-reading. Months of tests and doctor's exams left her with a portfolio of diagnosis--early menopause, a bladder disorder, middle age loss of muscle tone, a malformed reproductive system because of her mother's use of DES, sore breasts from wearing underwire bras, anemia, depression, and a large lump in her lower abdomen.
Finally a new doctor sends her to the hospital for an emergency CAT scan and the real problem is revealed--Alice is 6 months pregnant despite having an intern 44 year old Alice was sick. Finally a new doctor sends her to the hospital for an emergency CAT scan and the real problem is revealed--Alice is 6 months pregnant despite having an internal exam by her gyn just 4 weeks before who somehow missed the fact there was a baby in there.
Which is a REAL problem given all of the medications she's been taking, no pre-natal care until that point, her age and the condition of her uterus. Her story is horrifying--a litanany of medical malpractice and callous behavior that ran a chill up and down my spine. Her agony is palpable and haunting. You won't forget her story. Aug 04, Tattered Cover Book Store added it Shelves: staff-recommends , jackie-recommends , indie-next-noteables.
Jackie says: 44 year old Alice was sick. Finally a new doctor sends her to the hospital for an emergency CAT scan and the real problem is revealed--Alice is 6 months pregnant despite havi Jackie says: 44 year old Alice was sick.
Her story is horrifying--a litany of medical malpractice and callous behavior that ran a chill up and down my spine. Jun 30, Kelly Collins rated it really liked it. We were all grateful to have their son in our lives for the 12 short days he lived, but the idea of a wrongful life suit certainly has entered my thoughts over these last four years. Ms Cohen's story, I suspect, is not entirely unique.
Putting words to her feelings, many of which could be considered shameful, was a brave thing to do. Nov 23, Anna rated it liked it.
Although I only gave the book three starts - it was because four stars means I really liked it, and that's not the words I would use to describe reading this book.
If it were stars for "I really appreciated this book" then it would be four stars. I love how Cohen is simply frank about a very difficult journey - one that makes her questions what she believes, what she wants, and what she will do. There is no debating of anything here, no telling us what we should do, just Cohen relating her exper Although I only gave the book three starts - it was because four stars means I really liked it, and that's not the words I would use to describe reading this book.
Feb 22, Linette Blaszak rated it liked it Shelves: book-club. This book was completely different then I thought it would be. I thought it was about someone similar to myself with 2 kids, this was not the case. Never being depressed myself it was hard for me to read about her trials and difficulties but I empathized with her none the less. I hope to never be in that place mentally. I was happy with the ending! Dec 28, Allison rated it it was amazing.
I couldn't put this book down. A compelling, honest, very well-written account of how one woman is forced to re-imagine her life when everything that can go wrong with her health does. Surprisingly funny at times, with a spot-on voice. I don't always love memoirs, but this one was a delight. Apr 22, Victoria rated it really liked it. Absolutely mesmerizing story. Couldn't put it down. Aug 09, Jonna Higgins-Freese rated it it was amazing.
I must have reviewed another edition -- this was stunning, and I stayed up all night reading it. Apr 14, Ciara rated it really liked it Shelves: autobio-memoir , feminist-y-books , baby-pregnancy-infertility-parentin , read-in View all 4 comments. Alice has known since she was 30 that she was infertile.
She had probably always suspected it as she's a DES daughter her mother took DES, an anti-miscarriage drug, which was later found to cause birth defects, primarily in the reproductive arena of the baby girls.
But while married to her first husband, they wanted to have children, and she was told definitively there was n What I Thought I Knew by Alice Eve Cohen is a harrowing memoir of what happens when everything goes wrong in a pregnancy. But while married to her first husband, they wanted to have children, and she was told definitively there was no way. She was also put on horse estrogen pills that she'd probably have to take for the rest of her life, and they adopted a beautiful baby girl.
Fast forward a few years. Alice is divorced, a single Mom, dating a man ten years her junior, and her life is starting to get back on track. She's a writer, performer, and editor all freelance , and her boyfriend is also a performer. They are very happy, and that's when her health starts to go off the rails. She feels sick all the time, and sore. Her doctors give her antacids and tell her that's just aging.
Her period stops and she's having to go to the bathroom all the time. The doctors say she's entering early menopause, and a weakening of the bladder walls is a normal part of aging. Her breasts hurt must be underwire bras and she has a swollen abdomen abdominal muscles lose tone as you get older.
She has an x-ray of her aching hip nothing , a gynecological exam nothing and is told, go ahead on vacation to Italy, drink lots of wine and relax. She goes on a diet and tries to work out. Finally, she goes to the hospital and has an MRI. And that's when she hears the most shocking news. She's expecting them to tell her that she has a tumor, has cancer, will die. Instead, she is 6 months pregnant. She's 44, has been taking horse estrogen pills the whole time, dieting, drinking, taking no vitamins, and naturally and with reason , she's terrified.
The odds of her baby being malformed, handicapped, seriously ill, is very very high. She's not sure having the baby is the best option. But at 6 months, her options are very limited.
She goes through a roller-coaster of emotions as she tries to parse out what would be her best course of action. Her boyfriend is also upset, and they aren't always on the same page. At the end of each chapter she writes out a list of things she thinks she knows. As a performer and writer, Ms. Cohen knows how to built up tension, how to stay focused on the crucial points, and how to draw the audience in.
It's smoothly written and a whirlwind, just like the actual events were. I was riveted to the page and read the whole book in one sitting. I'm not going to spoil the ending, so you'll just have to read it to find out what she decided to do and how that worked out. Great memoir. My Synopsis: In this startlingly candid memoir, Alice Even Cohen shares her personal journey as a 44 year old "infertile" pregnant woman.
From the medical professionals who couldn't figure out what was wrong with her she was SIX MONTHS into her pregnancy before it was finally discovered that she was pregnant!
Cohen's memoir is deeply touching and fast-paced. My Thoughts: I loved this memoir. I am completely shocked and My Synopsis: In this startlingly candid memoir, Alice Even Cohen shares her personal journey as a 44 year old "infertile" pregnant woman.
I am completely shocked and downright appalled at the medical professionals who failed Ms. To read her journey and all the doctors she saw and the tests she went through and no one figured out she was pregnant - it's absolutely unbelievable to me!
The circumstances she had to endure and the conversations she had to have during her "medical mystery" and after her diagnosis will make you cringe and cry. I can relate to Alice in many ways, being an infertile woman myself.
I can't imagine being set in your life and accepting of your situation, in your mid forties and BAM, suddenly you are pregnant. What a shocking situation it must have been for her!
I don't want to examine her thoughts and feelings about the situation because none of us know how we will react when faced with the same circumstances. All I will say is that Ms. Cohen is a brave woman who fought through a very difficult time the best way she knew how and I commend her for that.
This memoir is very well-written and short at less than pages so I blew through it in two sittings. Cohen has a way of capturing the reader's attention at every turn of the page until you know the outcome of her story.
I couldn't put the book down. View 2 comments. Jun 17, Vicki rated it it was amazing. But before long, I was hooked. The writing is terrific, as is the story. It is at times happy, and others very deeply sad. And a lot of happiness and love. The author is very funny at times too. Host Ira Glass talks with Adam Mansbach about what happened when he went looking for an apartment and was mistaken for someone else. One day comic Jay Larson 's phone rang.
And the people on the other end of the line thought they knew who they were talking to. So Jay decided to play along. Robert had a bad reputation as a kid who didn't do his schoolwork and had little respect for adults. But his best friend, Lilly thought he was misunderstood. After Robert died, Lilly decided to step in and do for him what he could never do for himself: Tell people how great he was. I like the way that Kelly Heard flips back and forth between past and present in third person.
I also enjoy the way the tension builds and builds, so that Daisy has to face her fears and uncover the truth! I really enjoyed this novel and would recommend it!
For her second novel, Kelly has created an intriguing plot that had me hooked and enthralled right from the beginning. At times it was very hard to tear myself away from and I was completely immersed in all that Kelly brought to the story. When she receives a wedding invitation from her childhood best friend Stella, the last thing she wants to do is return to her North Carolina hometown.
Not knowing if she can forgive Stella for not standing by her when no one else did all those years ago, Daisy knows that if she wants a happy future she needs to return home and confront the mysteries of her past.
The characters in this story have all been created with depth and are very well developed. Daisy as the lead is the one that stands out the most. The sadness that flows off her, both breaks your heart and makes you angry with how she has been treated by those who are meant to love her.
You just want to protect her and wrap your arms around her to shield her from any more unhappiness. This is the first book I have read from Kelly and it will most definitely not be my last. I really enjoyed her style and how she was able to make me feel like I was there, entangled in the mystery. Kelly achieves this through beautifully descriptive prose that is just so effortless in its approach.
I look forward to hopefully many more books to come from Kelly. The Girl I Thought I Knew is a captivating read that will have you completely immersed as secrets are exposed in the lead up to the thrilling conclusion that I did not see coming.
It is a story of loss, love and how past relationships can shape a person in the present. Read and reviewed voluntarily, opinions expressed here are unbiased and entirely my own.
Daisy receives a wedding invitation from her childhood best friend, Stella, who she hasn't seen or talked to in years.
Stella still lives in their hometown As a teenager, she saw a factory burned to the ground. As her father worked there, she worried and got a little closer to the fire than she should have.
Why don't people believe what she sees? Why do they call her "fire girl"? Why wouldn't her best friends back her up? Why has Stella reached out to her after all these years? The book goes back and forth between 'then' and 'now' told exclusively from Daisy's point of view. This was a gripping tale of friendship, first loves, betrayal and trust. Well written, the characters are deftly drawn and immediately draw the reader into their lives.
See all reviews from the United States. Top international reviews. This ticks all my boxes!!!! A fantastic book! I am his caregiver. All the things I thought were real, the friendships I thought I would have forever, my career, my family and the vision of who I thought I was quickly changing.
In my husband fell ill with a disease called Sclerosing Mesenteritis. The readers digest version is that it is the calcifying of the mesentery organ that surrounds the intestines and other organs. He is sadly in constant pain and there is no cure, so now I care for him too. Mom was living with us but her health declined and could no longer stay in the mountains where we lived.
In she left our home and went to my sisters because she lived at a lower elevation. In we moved out of the mountains and mom came back to live with us but is now on oxygen. Shortly after bringing in our youngest son started have horrible seizures. He has also sadly, been diagnosis bipolar depressive disorder with manic episodes and mania. People living with the unexpected results of disease, mental illness, and stress that comes with providing twenty four hour care to family members. After years of care giving the lines show on my face, the signs of gray in my hair, and the person I use to know is no longer there.
The old me is a distant memory. The carefree, fun spontaneous woman is a thing of the past but a very fond memory. I lost what should have been my free years, having grown children, traveling, exploring, lunch dates with friends, being a grandma, drinking wine on the beach. Gradually, my whole family got sick and I had to change everything I had organized for my future to care for them.
I had to abandon what I thought my world should be and who I was and learn to accept who I am today. No longer are the days that I can jump up and run to the store, take a hike or meet the girls. I never know what shape my husband or younger son are going to be in. My day has to adjust based on everyone else and what they might need. I have never felt resentment, I just do what I do. I love my family and when your family needs you, you just do what has to be done.
But it has been a big adjustment. I had to let go of so many things in my life to care for everyone. But I have learned and adjusted to my new normal. My life is filled with love.
I start each day in the quiet by myself and all of our 18 rescue hairy kids. They lay around me as I work on my articles, catch up on social media and I find peace in their soft snores and snuggles.With the intimacy of a diary and the suspense of a thriller, What I Thought I Knew is a ruefully funny, wickedly candid tale; a story of hope and renewal that turns all of the "knowns" upside down. The Amazon Book Review Book recommendations, author interviews, editors' picks, and more. Read it now. Enter your mobile number or email address /5(91).